If your child is being bully, time is crucial!

Act as soon as possible.

Bullying can be defined as "A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing", a person who intimidating to others.
Bullying can be by individuals or groups.
Bullying takes many forms:
  1. Physical bullying - violence and attacks, includes punching, poling, hair pulling, biting
  2. Verbal bullying - taunts, name-calling, teasing, put-downs and gossip
  3. Emotional bullying - threats and intimidation, extortion or stealing of money and possessions, exclusion from the peer group
  4. Sexual bullying - sexual propositioning, sexual harassment and abuse involving actual physical contact and sexual assault.

Definition of Bullying in law Chapter 92 of the Acts of 2010 legislation:
The repeated use by one or more students [aggressor(s)] of a written, verbal or electronic expression or a physical act or gesture or any combination thereof, directed at a target that:
(i) causes physical or emotional harm to the target or damage to the target's property;
(ii) places the target in reasonable fear of harm to him/herself or of damage to his/her property;
(iii) creates a hostile environment at school for the target;
(iv) infringes on the rights of the target at school; or
(v) materially and substantially disrupts the education process or the orderly operation of a school. For the purposes of requirements related to this law, bullying shall include cyber-bullying.
See section 5 of the legislation for more details on the definition of cyber-bullying and more.
 

Lack of safety

Is one of the top concerns of young people, and bullying is a real and constant threat. A child's emotional development is just as important, if not more so, than academic development. In fact, a safe, healthy emotional environment is essential to academic growth and success.
 
Humiliation, fear, anxiety and depression are the constant companions of a child that is bullied. It can lead to harmful, shocking and unexpected behavior from an otherwise shy or timid child.
 
Victims feel ashamed and tend to view themselves as failures. They are more prone to stress related illnesses such as headaches and stomachaches. In extreme cases, the victim of a bully can experience sever depression and entertain thoughts of suicide.

When the bully targets a student because of the student's disability, that is a civil rights violation (akin to sexual harassment in the workplace).

What is bullying?

http://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/

We have found several articles and websites on this topic:

What Can Parents Do When a Child Complains of Being Physically Bullied:

If there are cuts and bruises, attend to them first. If the injury merits it, or if there is damage to clothing or possessions, take color photographs.  Without overreaction, convey to the child that you are angry about the bullying sympathetic with the problem and will take appropriate action.   Never blame your child, the target, or suggest you cannot help.  Do not promise to keep the incident a secret. Explain that this protects the bully who is counting on the child to remain silent.  Find out what, when and where it happened, who was involved and if there were witnesses. Ask what response your child made and whether the incident is one of a series.

Make an appointing with the school principal or staff member who handles parent complaints. Give them a written report of the bullying incident.   Make detailed notes of the reaction of the school personnel to your complaint. Include names, staff position, and date. (Lawson, 1994) Contact the parents of the bully. Some will react in a concerned and cooperative way and will make reparation for the damaged possessions, but many will not. In the latter case, point out that what has happened is an assault, that you are reporting the bullying to the school, and it could become a matter for the police.  If neither the parents nor the school personnel show appropriate concern followed by action, go higher in the school administration. If this proves unsuccessful, send a copy of the report of all events to date to the police for their files and advise them that you are seeing a lawyer.

For the complete article:
       http://www.nea.org/tools/...

Protecting Students from Harassment and Hate Crimes: A Guide for Schools

(U.S. Department of Education Office for Civil Rights and National Association of Attorneys General).
Many children experience sexual, racial and ethnic harassment at school. This Guide provides guidance about protecting students from harassment and violence based on race, color, national origin, sex, and disability.

Schoolwide Prevention of Bullying (Northwest Regional Educational Library).
30 percent of American children are regularly involved in bullying, as bullies, victims, or both. Approximately 15 percent are "severely traumatized or distressed" by bullies . . .
Despite these numbers, bullying behavior is rarely detected by teachers, and is even less frequently taken seriously (NRCSS, 1999). 
This booklet provides an overview of what is known about bullying behavior and successful efforts to address it; profiles anti-bullying programs and offers resources.

    www.wrightslaw.com/links/free_pubs.htm#bullying

    www.wrightslaw.com/nltr/05/nl.0201.htm


Understanding Bullying and Its Impact on Kids with Learning Disabilities or AD/HD

Bullies! Every classroom has at least one. Whose name comes to mind when you hear the word "bully"? Who was the kid who could upset your day with his verbal, physical, or emotional insults? Most adults who were bullied remember such childhood events vividly.

Bullying among elementary school children and teenagers is a growing problem in many schools in the United States. It's happening in urban,
suburban, and rural schools. Kids who have learning disabilities (LD)
    http://www.greatschools.org/... or

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (AD/HD) Kid a Victim?
Is your child teased and tormented at school? How to find out the truth and help your child prevent further bullying. 

    http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1595.html

Being bullied or bullying is not just a part of growing up! Use this information to help you better understand bullying. 

Bullying among elementary school children and teenagers is a growing problem in many schools. Itís happening in urban, suburban and rural schools. Children who have learning or other disabilities seem to be especially prone to bullying. While bullying isnít new, professionals today have a new level of understanding of the problem. Bullying is a learned behavior that can be prevented! Effective bullying prevention programs are being used in many school systems throughout New Mexico. Itís important for parents, students, teachers and school administrators to understand and learn to manage bullying that occurs at school and elsewhere.   . . .

For the complete article:
    http://www.cesdp.nmhu.edu/toolkit/promoting-positive-parenting/bullying.asp



School Bullying: A Closer Look and Possible Interventions (43 pages) 
A Report of the Robert Wood Johnson Clinical Scholarsģ program at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine


The bully and the bystander

Experts say that empowering bystanders to take action might be the key to stopping bullies.


Bullies2buddies

A source of help for victims of bullying. It teaches victims how to solve their problems without anyone's help and without getting anyone in trouble.
   bullies2buddies.com/index.html
Is your child being bullied in school? Are you angry because the school is failing to make the bullying stop? Or are you furious because the school is accusing your child of being a bully?
   http://bullies2buddies.com/Parents/

There is another free manual for adults that teachs how to dramatically reduce bullying between kids with almost no effort, while increasing students' emotional maturity and independence. It enables teachers to go back to being teachers instead of policemen and judges.

    "A Revolutionary Guide to Reducing Aggression between Children"

This manual can be easily printed out (also a Spanish version).

Massachusetts Department of Elementary and Secondary Education (was refer to as MA DOE, now DESE):

Bullying Prevention and Intervention Resources

         http://www.doe.mass.edu/bullying/#1 

Technical Assistance Advisory SPED 2011-2: Bullying Prevention and Intervention (Feb. 2011)

www.doe.mass.edu/sped/advisories/11_2ta.html

Safe & Drug Free Schools info

    www.doe.mass.edu/ssce/

   www.keepschoolssafe.org

    www.jodeeblanco.com

    www. familiesandwork.org

 

Bullying Prevention Programs
   www.stopbullyingma.org

   www.doe.mass.edu/bullying/

   http://www.nldline.com/antibull.htm

   nces.ed.gov/forum/crime.asp

  http://www.edpubs.gov/ProductCatalog.aspx?KeyWordSearch=&TypeofSearch=exact&searchterm=bullying

  
The Attorney General's Disability Rights Project will also come into
schools to speak to staff if there is bullying or harrassment based on
disability.  There is a reference to G.L. C. 265 sec 43A regarding criminal harassment.
    http://www.mass.gov/ago/about-the-attorney-generals-office/community-programs/bullying-and-cyberbullying/the-law-and-regulations/commission-on-bullying-prevention/

Protecting Students from Harassment and Hate Crime, A Guide for Schools (January, 1999)
US DOE OCR SITE, put out as a joint publication by the U. S. Department of Education Office for Civil Rights
National Association of Attorneys General Endorsed by the National School Boards Association.


A threat to kill should be a police and District Attorney's Office (DA's) matter, no question about it, and a school matter as well, but it is against the law to threated to kill someone.  Contact the OCR office.
 
Your District Attorney's Office (DA's) office (county based, Middlesex County,) should have a Bullying/School Programs department.
They are also funded to provide FREE workshops (great for a PAC topic).

You can consider asking your high school adjustment counselor for leads and resoures.

You can suggest this topic to your PTA/PTG/PTO as a parent workshop because bullying is prevalent and it parents need to have their awareness heightened on this issue. Not only about what happens to targets, but what happens to unchecked bullies.

What Do You Do When the Teacher is a Bully?

Stand up for your child. Don't diminish their concerns over a teacher's attitude or behavior. You have the right to question school authorities, and you owe it to your child to do so.  

If you suspect a teacher is bullying your child, request a meeting with the teacher.
Before your meeting, get as many details as possible from your child.
Speak to other parents to see if their child has voiced any complaints or observed mistreatment of your child.
Take notes and prepare yourself. When you speak to the teacher or administrator, try to keep calm, but make sure you get answers.
If your concerns are dismissed without resolution, take it a step further.
Document your efforts, meet with the superintendent, write an article for the newspaper, or attend a PTO or school board meeting to voice your concerns.


Our children have enough to deal with; a bully for a teacher shouldn't be one of their problems.

article: When the teacher is the bully, Bullying has become a national issue. But what do you do if the school bully is your child's teacher?

 

Books:

Schools Where Everyone Belongs: Practical Strategies for Reducing Bullying
by Stan Davis.
Based on research by Olweus, Davis's book discusses practical programs for schools to deal with bullying.  He lays out the step very clearly, and stresses that bullying is not the fault of the victim and needs to be dealt with systematically by schools.  You can see samples from the book at his site:

www.stopbullyingnow.com

Massachusetts Bullying and Cyberbullying books and links:

         http://www.stopbullyingma.org/Book___Links.html

         http://www.doe.mass.edu/bullying/#1

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA), as part of the HRSA's;

Take a Stand. Lend a Hand. Stop Bullying Now! campaign.

     http://www.stopbullying.gov/resources-files/sbn-discussion-guide.pdf


PACER Center's new innovative curriculum, "Is Your Child a Target of Bullying? Intervention Strategies for Parents of Children with Disabilities," addresses these and other types of bullying. An engaging and superbly produced resource, the curriculum is meant for professionals and parent leaders to present to parents at meetings, workshops, trainings, and myriad other occasions.

http://www.pacer.org/publications/bullying.asp


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